What Is Snow-Globing and How Can You Avoid It This Christmas?
The festive season is a time to cosy up, enjoy some hot cocoa and spread the warmth of love. But amidst the jingle bells and twinkling lights, there's a dating trend that can put a frosty damper on your Christmas spirit — snow-globing. In this article, we ask: what is snow-globing and how can you avoid it this Christmas?
What is snow-globing?
Imagine this: You're swept off your feet by someone charming and oh-so-enthusiastic, showering you with affection, extravagant gifts, and romantic getaways during the Christmas period. Maybe you met them on an app, or in a bar. It's like a winter wonderland of new love. But here's the catch – as soon as the New Year rolls in, they vanish, leaving you feeling like you're standing alone in the snow (a bit like when the snow settles in the globe, post-shake-up). This is the phenomenon of snow-globing. And while the term may be new (thought to have been coined by a dating journalist for Cosmo magazine), the concept is not.
Who snow-globes?
The snow-glober is someone who's all about festive magic. They'll make you feel like the star of a rom-com or a Hallmark film, but once the tree and baubles come down, the snow glover will pull a disappearing act. Then you are left bewildered at best, and heartbroken at worst. Why this happens can be a mystery. But some people just want a relationship to tide them over to beyond the New Year. Or they have commitment issues, or have an avoidant attachment style that compels them to run for the hills. In some cases, the timing of a post-Christmas break-up can be a coincidence. But when the connection begins in the run-up with bells and whistles and ends by the twelfth night, you’re dealing specifically with snow-globing.
How to avoid snow-globing
So how can you avoid getting embroiled in this kind of winter drama?
Here are our six ways to prevent snow-globing this Christmas.
1.Stay grounded. Don't get swept off your feet too quickly until you really get to know the person and what they stand for. Enjoy the fun of the moment by all means, but also keep your feet on the ground. Ask; is this person really as incredible as they seem, or is it just the festive glitter casting a shine?
2.Talk it out. Communication is key in any dating scenario. Speak to your date about your intentions, expectations, and what you both want from the relationship. A candid conversation can clear up any confusion and set the stage for a successful relationship.
3.Maintain realistic expectations. Remember that a sustainable partnership isn't just about presents and grand gestures. It's about compatibility and shared values that last long after the tinsel comes down.
4.Keep an eye on consistency in their behaviour. A strong, lasting relationship is built on trust and reliability. If they go from zero to 100 in the blink of an eye, they may well do the reverse not too far down the line. And should they be love-bombing you, it might be time to ask some questions.
5.Be Self-Sufficient. You’ll be far less susceptible to snow-globing if you’re content and secure in yourself. Your joy doesn't have to depend on a relationship. Enjoy the festivities with friends, family and on your own terms. Practice self-love and learn to date yourself. By being self-reliant, you can avoid getting overly invested in someone who may not have genuine intentions.
6.Trust your gut. If something feels off, don't ignore it. Pay heed to your instincts; they're your best friend in any situation. Take your time to get to know a partner and what they're truly about.
Keeping the chill out of your romance
This is undoubtedly a magical time to fall in love and it's easy to get carried away by the fairy-tale romance of it all. But snow-globing is like a sudden blizzard in the midst of your holiday cheer. By staying grounded, communicating openly, having realistic expectations, watching for consistency, being self-sufficient, and trusting your instincts, you can ensure that your connection stays warm and genuine, with no icy surprises come January. After all, the best relationships are for keeps and not just for Christmas!
Perhaps you’ve experienced snow-globing and are feeling disheartened or disillusioned by your love life. You’ve had an unfortunate experience, but know that there are well-intentioned and reliable individuals out there, looking for love just like you. January is a great month for dating too. So don’t give up!
Related Questions
Why do I feel more romantic in the winter?
The Yuletide festivities, twinkling lights, chilly evenings that leave you wanting to snuggle up and the effects of cuffing season, can all put you in the mood for love at this time of you. If you’re feeling romantic, but don’t have a significant other, why not come to a speed dating session, to see if you can connect with someone special this season?
What is winter coating in dating?
Ever felt the desire to message an ex during the winter months? This is winter coating. The idea is that you’re reaching for something (or someone) familiar and comforting, like an old winter coat. Whether they were a serious relationship from the past, a brief fling, or a previous crush, it may well be it doesn’t fit you any more. Exes are usually exes for a reason.
What is the snowstorming trend in dating?
If you’ve ever been dumped just before the New Year for no apparent reason, you’ve been snowstormed. This is especially true if your other half had form when it came to exiting a relationship at this time of year. New Year is often seen as a new start and can be a common time for break-ups as couples reconsider their goals.