James Preece – The Dating Guru
We know that there are an impossible volume of questions to ask about dating - the do’s and don’ts and the best way to attract your Soulmate! We reached out and had the pleasure of speaking to the UK’s Top Dating Expert and the Dating Guru himself, James Preece, to answer some of those very questions! Read on to find out what the charismatic gentleman that he is, shared with us at Slowdating!
James is a leading International Dating Expert and Dating Coach. He has been working in the industry for over seventeen years and has helped tens of thousands of men and women find love, build confidence and improve their relationships.
He is a regularly featured expert in top UK and international media and is the author of 15 bestselling dating books, including the Amazon Number One best seller Online Dating Guide "I will Make You Click!"
Why does James Love ‘Love’?
“There is no bigger way to have happiness than to have love, to give people love and to get it back from somebody else. If you can give someone love and make them happy, then that's the most rewarding thing of all! It’s a basic human emotion. It's wonderful and it makes you do all sorts of crazy things. And generally the biggest answer of all is, it makes life much more fun, as long as it is reciprocated of course!”
Online Dating vs Speed Dating?
“I always believe that face to face is much more successful than going on to dating apps and swiping through pointless pictures over and over again. With Speed Dating you're basing those three or four minutes on pure attraction and chemistry and conversation. And you don't get those things on dating apps where it's just looking at someone's picture. (And most people have terrible pictures anyway on dating apps!) So in real life, you've got a chance to make an effort - market yourself and sell yourself the right way, and it's also a great way to practice your dating skills!”
Biggest Dating Tip?
“There's always standard cliches, however it's not so much about being yourself as being the best version of yourself. Go in to this open minded and see every opportunity that you've got as a date to improve someone else's life. Make them feel special, make them feel amazing, make them feel like the most important person that you've met that week. And they're going to come away thinking (even if they didn't want to see you again) that you are empowering them and making them feel really good. And that's how life should be - to treat people well. And they're going remember you and want to spend more time with you for the simple reason that people like people who like them and show an interest in them.”
Biggest Dating No-No?
“Disrespect. If you’re going to meet someone, show up for it, don’t make promises and then let them down - this kind of thing has no place in dating. Another no-no is don’t drink too much! Alcohol is great to relax you but beyond that point it can make you say and do silly things that you may end up regretting. There is a place for alcohol on a date, but be careful.”
How can we learn from previous events that didn’t work to ensure success?
“We all learn from our mistakes in life, but I wouldn’t see them as mistakes. Think to yourself ‘I met some interesting people and I didn’t get any matches, but next time I will. I’ve learned what makes someone laugh so its an improvement’. The more events you go to, the better you become each time and the easier it gets. Plus, each time you meet someone, it’s a new person and a new chance to try again. Don’t base it on a previous event or relationship.”
What’s Next for James Preece?
The future for James is bright, with him continuing to guide and help singles across the UK with his new Virtual Courses and Youtube Channel launching! In the meantime you can find and listen to James and his words of Love-Wisdom on his podcast ‘Love Machine with James Preece’ , follow him on his Instagram @jamespreececoach and by purchasing one of his insightful books that can be found on Amazon!
And as always remember, four minutes is all it takes!