How Can I Find Love for Christmas?

Shorter nights, the colder temperatures and the romantic way in which the festive period has been represented in the media over the years can increase the desire for a partner. So read on, if you’re asking: How can I find love for Christmas?

How to find love at Christmas

We’re entering the time of year known as Cuffing Season, a period when singles are said to up the ante in their search for someone with whom to cosy in for the winter — it begins around the start of advent and continues well into the new year.

We’ve all grown up on a diet of festive rom coms. Iconic movies like Love Actually, The Holiday, Bridget Jones's Diary and When Harry Met Sally have helped to embed the idea that it’s the perfect season to fall in love. And with many extra opportunities to meet new people and a sense of anticipation in the air, it might just be.

So how can you harness this potential and take advantage of the extra level of romance in the air?

Here are our top tips on how to find love at Christmas.

Think positively

This may sound simplistic, but it’s actually one of the most powerful things you can do to bring your dreams into reality. And it’s backed up by science. The more you believe it can happen, the more likely it is to happen. That means also believing that you deserve it to happen. So give your mindset a check now. Have you been telling yourself it’s impossible? That all the good men/women are taken, or that no-one you like will ever like you back? These kinds of mantras can become self fulfilling prophecies, so change your thinking and you’ll change your outcomes.

Dress the part

We all got a bit too used to loungewear and slippers during the pandemic, due to working from home and little or no face to face socialising taking place. Dressing up for a night out still feels like a rarity for many of us. But we know that looking our best helps to attract the opposite sex. And if you’re wearing something eye-catching, you’re more likely to get noticed. Christmas offers the perfect opportunity to wear something extra smart and a little bit glitzy. This is also a good way to experiment with a slightly different style, to invest in some party wear and discover fresh wardrobe options that will really suit you.

Take a chance on something new

Broadening your horizons is a good way to come into contact with people you wouldn’t usually meet. Now perhaps you already have loads of different hobbies, take night classes and are networking all over the place. If this is you, you’re already doing plenty. But if you know you’re a creature of habit, maybe it’s time to break out of your routine a little and try something different. If you’re unsure where to start with this, have a think about what sparks your curiosity and interest. Is there anything you’ve always fancied trying? Now’s the time to give it a go.

What is the most common way to find love?

Go to festive parties

Last year these were off the table, but festive gatherings are back for 2021 and you should go to them; work nights out, family meet-ups, friends’ parties. The most common way to meet a partner continues to be through those close to you. Take advantage of these networks, mingle and have some fun! If you’re self-employed, work remotely or have just moved somewhere new, you may not be getting many invites to festive parties. In that case, look out for freelancer groups who set up their own events, or attend some festive Meet-ups. There are lots of people in the same position who are creating alternatives, so you don’t need to miss out. And you’ll widen your social pool even further, which bodes well for your dating chances.

Attend a speed dating event in December

Sometimes dating is a numbers game, and you have to meet a lot of singles before you find someone who’s a good match. The quickest and easiest way to do this face to face is by attending a speed dating event. December is an especially enjoyable month to join us, as our speed dating nights take on a festive spirit. And if you don’t have a works night out to go to this year, coming along to Slow Dating is a great substitute.

Whether you go on lots of dates in December, or just a couple of special ones, you can glean some inspiration from our Christmas first date ideas and make them count. And if you don’t find love for Christmas, don’t despair. Stay with our first tip (think positively). January and February are also excellent months to find someone, as many singles make finding a partner one of their new year’s resolutions.

Related Questions

Should I get my date a Christmas gift?
It’s a nice touch to buy your date a little something, whether it’s the first time you’re meeting or early days in the relationship. But you can keep it small. If you’ve been dating a while and are officially a couple, you should definitely get them something if you know they celebrate Christmas.

Why am I not finding my partner?
Perhaps you’re not looking in the right/enough places and therefore aren’t mixing with eligible like-minded singles who are ready to couple up. Maybe you’re overly choosy or serially date people who aren’t suitable for you. We have lots of advice on how to find ‘the one’ in our blog.

Is it bad to stay single forever?
Absolutely not. It’s a totally valid life choice and in many cases the right thing for an individual. The major caveat is that it has to be what you want. It’s bad to be single forever if you yearn for romance and companionship. Be honest with yourself and know that if you do crave love, it can happen for you too.